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Question: My husband is very quiet and doesn't talk about his feelings. Is there a way to help him express himself better?

This man is satisfied with his current methods of expression. By examining his overleaves [personality choices] it is apparent that he did indeed set up this life to be sort of “stunted” in the expression category, to give himself that handicap if you will. It is his choice then to experience life without the exuberant expression that you have come to think of as a part of being human. That does not mean that your husband does not experience INSIDE those joyful or heartrending emotions, but that he is content to let them be where they are rather than expressing them outwardly. This is an aspect that you find difficult and somewhat grating, but it is impossible for YOU to do anything about this other than attempt to accept it. It may however continue to dig at you until this issue becomes paramount in your relationship unless you are able to let go of the expectation and belief that his expression has anything to do with you and how he feels about you. It is of course no reflection upon you and also has no bearing on what he feels inside, but you, as a naturally expressive person, finds this “wrong” and unnatural, and you have difficulty understanding how anyone can hold back so much when there is so much to be experienced and expressed.

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